| Common Unmet Needs. Related Fears And Behaviors | ||
| Unmeet Needs | Related Fears | Ineffective Behaviors |
| Need to be accepted and to belong | Fear of rejection, and/or fear of being different | Withdraw; "too pushy"; aggressive |
| Need to be loved to love | Fear of being alone and/or being lonely | Unable to set limits; irresponsible giving |
| Need to be "successful" | Fear of Failure, and/or fear of proverty | Unable to take risks; restrict life; stingy |
| Need to be in control | Fear of losing control | Over controlling of others and/or self, resist help |
| Need to be well | Fear of illness, fear of hunger | Restrict activities and/or friendships |
| Need to feel safe | Fear of harm to self | Restrict activities and/or friendships |
| Need to give to others | Fear "gift" not "good enough" | Spend more time and money (resources) than have don' give at all |
Dr. David R.Henson
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http://www.trauma-relief.com