Trauma Relief - Couple's Prayer

This model requires a commitment to each other and a commitment to prayer. It is the attitude of your hearts and minds that is important in prayer. Time, place, how often and touching each other in some safe and meaningful manner are also important. Praying together is a means of drawing closer to each other and of utilizing your faith as a resource in your marriage. Pray at least three (3) times before our next couples therapy session. Who prays first in not important. If, however, one partner is clearly the offending partner and this person desires to demonstrate his or her willingness to stay in the relationship and make amends for his or her misdeeds, it seems helpful for this person to initiate the prayer sessions and to pray first. Taking turns, also, works well for most couples.

First, each person thanks God for something specific about his or her mate.
Beginning prayer with something about which you are thankful not only fulfills the biblical admonition to do so but also continues the emphasis on one of the central focuses of your relationship.. .increasing positive interactions. This necessitates that each look for what is good and positive about the other rather than continuing to rehearse what he or she doesn't like.

Second, each person prays for something specific that is important to his or her mate.
This kind of specificity compels each partner to be aware of the other and to tune into the external circumstances and events of his or her partner's life and to his or her innermost thoughts and feelings.

Third, each person prays to change something specific about himself or herself that he or she knows is important to the other.
Hearing your partner pray for something that you have asked him or her to change becomes an important step in reconciliation.